A Daddy’s Letter to His Little Girl

Lovely and Caring Daddy’s Letter to His Little Girl (About Her Future Husband)

Dear Cutie-Pie,

Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”

It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.

And I got angry.

Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”

Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)

If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.

Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be kept interested, because he knows you are interesting:

I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.

I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.

I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.

I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.

I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.

I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.

I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.

In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:

You.

Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.

Your eternally interested guy,

Daddy

———

This post is, of course, dedicated to my daughter, my Cutie-Pie. But I also want to dedicate it beyond her.

I wrote it for my wife, who has courageously held on to her sense of worth and has always held me accountable to being that kind of “boy.”

I wrote it for every grown woman I have met inside and outside of my therapy office—the women who have never known this voice of a Daddy.

And I wrote it for the generation of boys-becoming-men who need to be reminded of what is really important—my little girl finding a loving, lifelong companion is dependent upon at least one of you figuring this out. I’m praying for you.

Dr. Kelly Flanagan

Begin Again, not Once again

tumblr_n3qapmbsnj1qjaa1to1_1280 rs_560x415-140328181340-1024.Begin-Again-Adam-Levine-Keira-Knightley.ms.032814_copyI recklessly fell in love with Once few years ago, and I “once” again fell for Begin Again. Lots of people said this film is another “Once” again, really, but I don’t think so. Dublin storyline and Manhattan storyline are different, and maybe my experience and observing NYC makes me feel more touching. The story of finding yourself again, defining yourself, through music, transforming and collaboration, fits me well. After all, it has lots of humorous scenes, not that heavy feeling movie :D Music (or former name of this film “Can a Song Save Your Life?”) can brighten up your day, your month, your year, or maybe, your life, who knows? ;)trailer-for-once-directors-new-film-begin-again-with-mark-ruffalo

Surprisingly, Keira Knightley can sing, better than I thought :) “Lost Stars” of Adam Levine is more tormenting, like self-potrait, but Keira makes it lighter, smoother and deeper, somehow stronger, for a girl, like a small stream in river.

Other songs: Like a Fool, and Tell me you wanna go home, is pretty okay, thanks to good lyric, I think. Acoustic version of Lost Stars by Adam Levine is a bonus for my acoustic thirst.

Dear John Carney, keep doing it and you can be my next favorite director after Woody Allen!

Current favorite quotes from this film:

– “You’re only as strong as your next move”

– Greta: “I’m not a performer, I just write songs from time to time”

Dan: “What do you write them for?”

and begin again

Bài thơ về nụ hôn gió của vợ Dương Chí Dũng

Bài thơ để lại nhiều suy nghĩ và cảm xúc sau khi đọc, chủ yếu là buồn cho số phận của nhiều người phụ nữ Việt Nam nói chung và vợ ông Dũng nói riêng.

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Lâu lắm rồi anh chẳng hôn em
Vì anh bận hôn người con gái khác
Họ trẻ trung, sexy, bỏng rát
Và giỏi hơn em những việc của đàn bà.

Phải đợi hôm nay khi anh đứng trước tòa
Không có mặt người ta
Em mới được đến gần anh để gửi vội những nụ hôn gió
Anh cười cho em, hay cho ai đó?
Em vẫn tin, chắc chắn có phần mình.

Em đã gắn đời em vào với đời anh
Vui với những phút anh vinh quang
Khóc đẫm gối những lần anh xa vắng
Em vẫn sát bên anh những lúc đời tột cùng cay đắng
Cũng chẳng vì mong để anh thấu lòng mình.

Người vợ khác với bồ như vậy đó
Hỡi anh…!”

(sưu tầm)

What Is A Youth?

 

Sweet and tender voice of Aoi Teshima (手嶌葵)

 

What is a youth? Impetuous fire.
What is a maid? Ice and desire.
The world wags on.

A rose will bloom
It then will fade
So does a youth.
So do-o-o-oes the fairest maid.

Comes a time when one sweet smile
Has its season for a while…Then love’s in love with me.
Some they think only to marry, Others will tease and tarry,
Mine is the very best parry. Cupid he rules us all.
Caper the cape, but sing me the song,
Death will come soon to hush us along.
Sweeter than honey and bitter as gall.
Love is a task and it never will pall.
Sweeter than honey…and bitter as gall
Cupid he rules us all

 

It has been quite a long time since my last post here. A post for my unconscious moment…a new path is waiting for me, calling me, should I move forward, or wait? I’m a bit scared of being moody and painful, again…

 

Merry X’Mas for me, and for everyone.

My Top 5 Favorite Videos on YouTube

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There are millions of videos on Youtube but I specially like some of them. I want to share it with everybody. They are not only my top favorite videos, but also very meaningful. I often watch them to remind myself for a better view of life and appreciate what I have, and try harder ^^!

Today I was extremely exhausted and depressed because of a mess combination: work, study, family, life…..Anyway, let’s watch these short films with me !

Leftovers of young people at KFC outlets are God’s gift to the poor. The image of a family pray before the chicken wings make lots of people crying when they watch this clip.

I am one of them. I often say to myself “how’s lucky you are, don’t sit here and complain about your life, go and do smth better” when I remember about it.


In 1969 a young Australian, John Rendall and his friend Anthony “Ace” Bourke, bought a small lion cub from Harrods pet department, which was then legal. ‘Christian‘ was kept in the basement of a furniture shop on the Kings Road in Chelsea, the heart of the swinging sixties. Loved by all, the affectionate cub ate in a local restaurant, played in a nearby graveyard, but was growing fast…

A chance encounter with Bill Travers and Virginia McKenna led to a new life for Christian. He came to live in a huge enclosure and to sleep in a caravan at their Surrey home. Then in 1971 he was flown to Kenya, his ancestral home, and returned to the wild by lion-man George Adamson. Nine months later in 1972, John and Ace returned to Kora in Kenya. This clip is of their reunion at that time.

It was an emotional reunion: “He ran towards us, threw himself onto us, knocked us over and hugged us, with his paws on our shoulders.” John Rendall

Well, this is another famous story. I bet that lots of people know it, and many of you will share same feelings with me when you see a lion “HUGGED” a human so emotional like that. I have not raised a lion so I don’t know their feeling but I will be panic….honestly ^^!

 

Well, this is a short film about a flightless Kiwi bird has spent all of its life to try to fly. The time it can fly, also….fly to far away. It is an animation but I feel sad with its ending. I think this bird can go to heaven of bird kingdom :D

 

This is one of the most touching advertisements on the Internet (shampoo ad of Pentene). I have a huge bias with shampoo ad but this is the only one advertisement that I love truthfully.

 

This time, forget all above sad emotion, and welcome a happy ending love story. A special love story when they know each other without saying anything? How can? So easy, we need pen, paper, and a good view of window ^_^

The end of today. I feel much better now. Get back to work……….